This is a discussion on love. It is the word that arguably has the highest no of definitions. Of all, with mothers love, friendly love, brotherly love or so apart, the love a guy or gal posses has its own lot of definitions. It differs with each n every individual at least by one iota. Definitions vary with age, gender, the way of brought up, society surrounding a person n so on. Also, this is exclusively my opinion... So, if yu ever feel i'm wrong, no offence.
This is for the ones who’ve not yet into love n longing to be. Mainly for the student community, especially guys. We’ve got much of activities n duties or commitment or however you call it to be accomplished in this age. We owe a lot to the parents at this point of life than to the pretty gals around us. Love is not a compulsory activity to be done. It can even start after a marriage. But, also, it’s not a sin either. Without love, no life in this world is merely possible. At least we have to love ourselves. First understand, love is not a verb. It’s a noun. It means a kind of feeling just like happiness, or sadness. If you have a feel like you are in love with someone, first try to know that it is actually love. Don’t fear to express it to anyone. Just don’t keep it within you for a long time over which the one may be lost. I’ve seen good no of incidents like it. Express it to the one who deserves it. If you can’t even manage to tell them your love, how can you lead an entire life with them? What is most bothering is the fear of getting rejected. What’s so hard in it? The other person may have a genuine reason for it. Will you accept any proposal from any other when you are in love with your one? This reason seems genuine for you n they may have any such reasons. So, love if you love. Don’t worry if you don’t. Don’t be happy either. It’ll be really nice to have someone of the opposite sex caring for you every moment. But, it’s not a compulsory thing. You’ll get to feel love soon.
This is for the ones who just loved. To the amateurs. The way a guy looks at it n a way a gal does differ greatly. There are exceptions. Some see it as a license to everything. Some see it as an entertainment, fun or so. In all such cases, the word “love” isn’t applicable. No way. I’m meaning the majority. To a guy, aged 16-24 mostly a student, it is some kind of commitment to what he is supposed to be dedicated almost entirely. To a gal, it is like another relation on whom she can fully be dependant n someone who can care for her more than she does for her own self. A guy dies to fulfil these expectations to the last drop of his soul. One should first know, love is not one giving n the other at the receiving end. It is not a business. It has to be reciprocal. Understand each other n accept them just as the way they are. It is not just about talking over phone for hours, exchanging sms 24*7, hanging out with each other and so. It is one step above all such. Accept, understand n proceed. It can’t be lectured by a 3rd person. You people got to go the way it leads you safely, smoothly n above all, lovingly.
This is to them who are in love for quite long. You people by now would know it better than others. How it was? And how it is? Considerably fewer time on phone, not that much sms’ing, n so on. You should have by now faced a good no of conflicts n quarrels. Do you understand why this all? It is because; the gal’s attitude has not changed whereas the guy should now be tired of fulfilling expectations. He has changed. So, the gal can’t throw herself away from the comfort zone she was in earlier. The most usual reason for quarrel is that the gal saying, “You are not as before”. That’s true, a guy can’t be. And the less frequent case is the guy getting very sick of the gal’s attitude. He just can’t accept the one way traffic of looking after anymore. So, he thinks she won’t be the best partner. All gals are like that boy. That’s in their hormone. Both reasons are quite the same. The gal mistakes in the first case and the guy does in the second. This is where I want to stress the word “Understanding”. Understand and accept before it is too late. The best remedy is that the gal should also adapt to the new phase of the relation or the guy should remain the same. Second option is hardly possible n best is the first one (but you guys need to be patient till the spring occurs). Have you got it gals? Things can’t be same all the time. Every part of nature means it, time ticking away, days and nights, spring n autumn n lot more. Some things will come back in a cyclic fashion and some may not.
Now, it is for the couple hanging at the edge of break up. For those who read the above paragraph very late. But not that late if the reason is similar to what is meant above and you still feel the love in any corner of you. But I can say that a conflict alone doesn’t lead to break up in most case. There might be a genuine reason after all. List of suspects will be much longer. But if conflict is the case, your love is still in your hands and I can promise that. Give up your ego; just let the love in you guide you. Listen to what it says. It whispers. So, listen carefully. If you ever truly loved that person, and you missed them for just that, you can’t really get them out of your damn mind. Think and react at least now. You still got it in your hands. Try not to let it go because it may go off forever. After all, love is not a job to resign just because you are fed up. And, if you can, I can say that you didn’t ever love. Consider this for your love’s sake. But if the reason is something else really genuine, then both of you got to go with it. Better jump off the chopper before it gets too high because it’ll hurt more. But, I can’t define a scale to check whether your cause is genuine. Your life, your love, you should know what.
Split up already? Sorry for you. Whatever it is, a love is not to end without completion. But, life is not always like we wanted it. As said earlier, if there was some unavoidable reason, maybe you have to look forward to your life rather to look back at your love and sob. There will be another person with lots of love waiting for you maybe even without knowing it. Find them. I don’t tell you need to forget. But, try not to remember. It will also affect the ones around you who still care for you. Or if you just split and you are the reason, don’t worry because you never loved. Ask yourself what next, and decide the next part of your life wisely. If you are nearly out of it, I suggest you read the 2nd paragraph. Let this be the start of the rest of your life. This is what I like to call as “the life (love) cycle”.
